Time of My Life - Autobiography

The clan in which I got married. - Aparna Pradhan

Time of My Life - Autobiography


The ancestor of Chief Kaji Kalyan Singh had been living in the Yang Bahal of Lalitpur. He had a son named Banshidhar, who had a son named Lakshmidhar.

During their life span, Banshidhar and Lakshmidhar both worked as Kajis.

Kaji Lakshmidhar had 6 sons, named Dharanidhar, Gangadhar, Shukradhar, Khadgadhar, Rajyadhar, and Bishnudhar – all of them worked as the Kaji for 195 years, from BS 1630 to 1825, mentioned in the Kalyan Singh Guthi Banshabali.

When the King of Gorkha state Prithivi Narayan Shah invaded the Kathmandu Valley, that time six sons of Kaji Laxmidhar were working as the Kajis in the valley.

At that time, they captured Dal Mardan Shah, the brother of Prithvi Narayana Shah. Five out of  6 Kaji, had decided to give him the penalty of death. It is said that Khadgadhar Kaji, after taking consent from five Kajis, had rescued him from being killed and sent to Gorakha.

After Prithivi Narayana Shah’s victory over the valley, out of  6 Kajis of Lalitpur, except  Khadgadhar Singh, five were killed.

Khadgadhar Kaji, defeated in the war, escaped from his life, hiding in the jungle near Bag Bhairav of Kirtipur.

That time an extensive search was made in his house, but the army couldn't find him there, instead, found four persons his house - his sons Malla Singh (18), Gajendra Singh (12), Motiram Singh (6) and his wife.

For inquiries, they held the eldest son Malla Singh. But he couldn't give the location of his father’s whereabouts. So the king had given an order to kill him, taking into the place, where there was no water.  As per the royal order, it's said that he was killed in the Battar.

Khadgadhar got the message of killing his eldest son. Realizing he was not safe in Nepal, he escaped to Banaras(Kashi), taking his family and nephew Thakur Singh, from where he began to help Shahs.

Knowing this, later on, Prithvi Narayana Shah invited Khadgadhar Singh to come to Nepal and help him in operating the  state.

At the time, Khadgadhar was old enough to work. Having made a proper request for protection of his children, he sent his sons with Thakur Singh to Nepal.

Accepting his request, the king raised his sons, keeping them at the Hanumandokha Palace.

Khadgadhar had ordered his sons to leave the Palace, after reaching the age of twenty. As per his his father's order, Gajendra Singh had sent a request off, leaving the Hanumandokha Palace when he stepped at that age.

Accepting his request, an arrangement was made to shift to Maru Tole, the western part of Maru Ganesh (Ashok Vinayak). Since then, Gajendra Singh had begun to live there, installing the clan God.

Because of urbanization, today,  family members of this clan have left their original place and settled in other places. However, they do adopt the house situated in the Maru as their clan house.

This clan has a practice to worship Bag Bhairav deity of Kirtipur as their clan deity and perform a special worship, gathering all blood kins, once a year on the day of Narsingh Chaturdashi. On this day, newlywed brides belonging to the same caste and the new babies, marking the rice feeding ceremony, are given a formal entry at the deity.

Kalyan Singh had a son named Haridas, who married twice. From the first wife he had two sons named Abdbhoop and Shailbhoop and from second wife,  had a son named Alkhanand.

Abdbhoop’s son named Bhanubar was my husband’s grandfather. Erg. Bhagat Man Singh Pradhan has published  the genealogy book of our clan in detail.

( The autobiography originally written in Nepalbhasha entitled as Ji Wo Jigu Iee by Aparna Pradhan has been translated to English by Sylvia Razopadhyay. This is the excerpt from the Time of My Life.)